Vs. 
This question was thrown at me while chatting with a former colleague as we were discussing of the possibilities (or not) of Christiano Ronaldo gracing the women with his presence while the Manchester United team is in KL for the 2009 Asia Tour. This only came up because she was telling me the story of how her 13 years old daughter find that the fact that her mother is betraying her trust by having a crush on her footballer “boyfriend”. She find it somewhat threatening because let’s face the fact that my 30++ friend is still considered a bombshell.
Let’s consider the pros and cons of each, shall we?
Going Younger
With younger men, I think most women are concerned with the immaturity that these men possess as compared with their older counterparts. They are seen as a trait that leads to reckless abandonment, absentmindedness, an invincible mind set, lack of future outlook and lack of chivalry. When it come to being empathetic, younger men may have a harder time of putting themselves in another’s shoes. A friend pointed out those younger men gets jealous easily and are prone to infidelity because of their immaturity.
Of course, their immaturity may not much be a negative trait. Their carefree nature and lack of responsibilities makes them fun to be with and they let you forget the stress of your own busy life. They’ll keep you updated with the latest trends, music, hotspots and stuff. A big plus for me when it comes to dating younger men would be the lack of potential confrontations with psychotic exes.
My ex-colleague pointed that all that in the pros is good enough for a fling but what about when it comes to settle down, get married and have kids? All I have to say is that; give the poor bloke some time. He’ll straighten up his life and get mellow in time. If you really love and thinking of having a future with this much younger man (and he too is on the same wavelength), I’m sure that you wouldn’t mind being the one in the relationship to wear the pants for a while.
Going Older
When you think of dating and having a relationship with older men, the pros are endless. He’s more often than not are emotionally matured, well read, reached most of his life goals & ambitions and financially secured. His more “experienced” past makes him see the world with a broader perspectives. He’s has more understanding of what women needs, wants and actions. He’s charming and he’ll sweep you off your feet.
Of course, being older, he would likely have this sense of authority over you. He might think that you are too idealistic for the cruel reality of the world. And seeing that he is older, he may carry some relationship baggage from his past; crazy exes, children from previous marriage(s) etc. They also may be cynical of their pasts and set in their ways. Then there’s also the question of “Why exactly is this man STILL single?” As positive as the excuses may be (he is waiting for The One or the death of a spouse), there’s always that tingling doubt; Is he a bachelor for life? Is he a serial womanizer? Is he a closeted gay man?
Do keep in mind that these are my (limited experienced) views. I don’t really stand by them 100%; there are many exceptions including the frustrations when older men who behave like their younger counterpart are in their youths and the delight of finding younger men who are wise beyond their age.
Personally, I have no qualms of dating younger men even though I have been mostly attracted to men who are relatively older than me. The youngest person who I had a crush on was Syafiq, my former classmate. To my defense, Shairah had a bigger crush, ok. While the other girls may not agree, I find his immaturity coupled with his sense of responsibility and hints of budding maturity endearing. The emerging young Hollywood pack is a treat for the eyes as well with the likes of Taylor Lautner (he’s way too hot for his own good), Jesse McCartney and even Nick Jonas (yeah, yeah, laugh it off Yuyu).
As you can see, there are endless of possibilities and it all is subjective to personal preference. So to the guys who read this, I come in peace, and am not trying to stereotype any of you and the qualities above pertain to us women as well.
Note #1: I’m NOT a pedophile.
Note #2: Girls, I’m sorry if you puked when reading about Syafiq.
Note #3: Syafiq, don’t get big headed if you happened to read this ;p
